How to turn a setback/failure into an opportunity

Okay. Some real talk today you guys. I need to get this out of my head, and I feel like what I am experiencing right now is something we all go through at some point or other.

Skinny Belle is about keeping it real. THE REAL FOR REALZ. Sometimes that is messy, controversial, and just taboo. I will always share my favourite fashion, food, fitness routines, beauty tips, etc…Β  (because those things make my world go round πŸ™‚ ) but I want to make sure we talk about the other stuff too.

The “things you aren’t supposed to talk about.”

You know?

I want to be honest with what’s going on with me rn and how I am dealing, in hopes that it could help you too

With that being said…. I can’t actually tell you what has happened. If I would, I could. Because I basically tell you everything. This one is out of my control tho.

Here’s what I CAN tell you: I’ve experienced a major setback as of yesterday. MAJOR.

What has happened is something I have wanted my whole life and have worked very hard for has been taken away from me.

I cried. A lot.



This is today’s theme because I can’t really pretend to talk about anything else. And, I feel I am pretty good at handling these things despite my lack of ability to control my emotions at times.😝

Setbacks come in all shapes and sizes.

From tiny things that happen on a daily basis like missing a deadline and having your boss freak out on you, to big things like having something happen that alters your life plan.

Of the many shapes and sizes setbacks come in, they all have one thing in common. They hurt. Not like they actually hurt your life (I’m getting to that) but they hurt your feelings. It’s normal to not feel happy, or good when you experience a setback.

Believe me, I know.

If you have also experienced a “setback” or “failure” in your life, it’s okay to let yourself be sad about it for a minute. In my very unprofessional opinion. (For real tho, this is just what works for me. Always do what is best for you! I am not a pro by any means. This is just my two cents.)

That being said, allow only a SHORT AMOUNT OF TIME to wallow. Being sad about something is not productive, and does not bring forward a solution. And for every hour/day/minute you feel bad for yourself, is a lost hour getting creative and problem solving. Acknowledge how you feel, feel it, let it the fuck go, and decide your next move.


You now need to look at your “setback” (in quotations on purpose), however small or large it may be, as an opportunity.




Let that one sink in for a second. And never forget it.

Failures and setbacks are really opportunities to do something bigger, greater, more exciting, and DIFFERENT than you had originally planned.

You are probably like yaaaaaa right. *Eyeroll*

But, it’s true. If I think about all my “failures” or “setbacks” in my life, they have pushed me to find new avenues to achieve what I originally wanted OR switch directions and do something better.

In the micro it might seem like everything is going to shit, but if you look at the big picture, usually things work out even better than you had planned.Β πŸ‘ŒπŸ»

There is a 100% chance you are going to have to work hard and get creative. But this is good news. Because nothing great in this life comes easy.

If you have experienced a setback lately, please please please don’t just give up. Look at it as a new opportunity to do things better than you ever imagined possible. And always live your best life.


Wow guys. This post was so real. The realest of real. But it’s what I am feeling right now and it needed to get out. Bad.

One day when I can, I promise I will tell you specifically what I am talking about. It might be a ways away tho.

For now, let’s push through these pesky setbacks!!

If you can relate, please leave a comment and let me know we are in this thing together! Love to hear from you guys. I see you reading (on my analytics), and it makes me really happy when you leave a comment and talk with me. Skinny Belle is the place where we can talk about it all. And stop with the bs social media trend of pretending that life is a highlight reel.


Lol anyways, I hope this post inspires at least one person. ❀

Off to finish editing my vlog from this weekend! Can’t wait to share. It’s funny lol.





  1. Sorry to hear your experiencing a bump in the road but happy your being optimistic and ready to face whatever comes next in stride! Absolutely had had more than my share of setbacks thus far (I’m sure it’s not the last of them) and love your advice. Keep moving forward! XX PS love following your LA adventures!

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